No announcement yet.

What Defines a Man?


  • What Defines a Man?

    Click image for larger version

Name:	websters.jpg
Views:	1
Size:	47.8 KB
ID:	402What defines a man? Below are some definitions of the word man in the Merriam Webster Dictionary.

    a (1) : an individual human; especially : an adult male human (2) : a man belonging to a particular category (as by birth, residence, membership, or occupation) —usually used in combination man> (3) : husband (4) : lover

    b : the human race : humankind

    c : a bipedal primate mammal (Homo sapiens) that is anatomically related to the great apes but distinguished especially by notable development ofthe brain with a resultant capacity for articulate speech and abstract reasoning, is usually considered to form a variable number of freely interbreeding races, and is the sole living representative of the hominid family; broadly : any living or extinct hominid

    d (1) : one possessing in high degree the qualities considered distinctive of manhood (2) obsolete : the quality or state of being manly : manliness

    Some men let those around them define who they are. Some guys let Hollywood define what kind of man they are. In my opinion, a man is defined by many qualities and traits.

    The main thing that defines a man is his actions. I often hear people talk about how a man will react or what he will say in a particular situation. A man is known by how he will respond to things that occur around him. Many men are known to "blow their top". Some are known for their avoidance of events that may be unpleasant or difficult. Others are known for their ability to overcome any obstacle that gets in their path. Are you known as a problem solver or a problem maker? You need to be sure that you govern your actions accordingly at all times. Your actions will either chisel you into a great sculpture that is enjoyable to be around or mold you into a rough and unpleasant attempt at art.

    A man is defined not only by his actions, but by his words. Is he a gossip? Does he talk too much? Or does he talk too little? Does his vocabulary only include vulgarity? Is his vocabulary vast or limited? Is he able to discern when to speak up and when to keep his mouth shut? Everything that flows from your mouth defines you to those around you. You will be remembered for a long time for what you say. Once a word exits your mouth, it can not be retracted, reversed, or disposed of. It can't be deleted like it is on the screen of your computer. Be sure you think before you speak and determine if it is time to speak and, if so, what words are appropriate.

    Clothing defines a man in a great way. If you don't believe that, then show up in a pair of raggedy shorts, a dirty tank top, and a pair of sandals for your next job interview. I am not saying that it is wrong to dress that way. I am saying it is wrong for that particular situation. You need to know what to wear for every occasion. If you are going to a business meeting, dress for business. If you are off to the beach, leave your sport coat at home. If you are going to jump on your Harley for a ride, then wear your Harley t-shirt, jeans, and riding boots. The one rule to follow in every dress situation is to make sure your attire is neat, clean, and pressed at all times. You do not want to leave your house looking like you were just assaulted by the wrinkle monster!

    Your personal etiquette also defines you. Make sure that your are always polite in your dealings with people. There is nothing wrong with saying "please", "thank you", and "excuse me". It is polite and friendly to always open doors for others, whether it be a man or a woman. You should give the way to others when going through a door, stepping into an elevator, or even in driving situations. It is not going to make you any later to your destination if you let others go first. If you bump into someone, you should politely say, "excuse me" or apologize. I can remember bumping into a man one evening while I was walking on State Street in Chicago. Before I even had the chance to apologize, this cretin was ready to fight me. I was not rude to him even in that situation. I just kept my cool, got into a defensive stance, and diffused the situation before it came to blows.

    Honesty and integrity are two things that will etch out a picture of you to those around you. Whatever you do, do it in truth and honor. Keep your word at all costs, and always do a first-class job in everything you do. Work just as hard if you have volunteered to help someone out with a project for free than when you are getting paid. Not only will honesty and integrity define you to others, but it will define you to yourself. There is nothing more satisfying than to look in the mirror each day knowing that you have been honest and upright in all your dealings with mankind.

    Taking responsibility for your actions at all times will also define you. Can you accept being wrong? Or do you always put the blame on everyone around you. You need to realize that the place you find yourself in today is a direct result of the choices you have made in your life. Your choices will also decide where you will be tomorrow. It all reflects on you and no one else. You created your life and the universe you live in. If you do not like where you are at in life, accept responsibility, and change things!

    The old adage of "birds of a feather flock together" also defines a man. If you want to be defined as a thug or a gangster, then hang with those types of friends. If you want to be defined as a successful person, then associate with that kind of person. I immediately divorce myself from certain types of people. I refuse to associate with folks that are dishonest, disloyal, gossipy, lazy, impolite or negative. Of course, my friends may exhibit some of those poor traits at certain times in their lives, and that can be forgiven, but I will never pair up with people that live those traits as a daily lifestyle.

    Remember that none of us are perfect men, but we can always do our best in every situation we encounter. None of us will ever arrive even close to perfection, but the continual trying to do better is the action that makes us all Perfected Men.
      Posting comments is disabled.



    Latest Articles


    • Self-Confidence Building For Men
      by Bradmin
      The one key enabling all of us in achieving all of our dreams and goals is having an indestructible self-confidence and a belief in ourselves. Without this unshakable confidence, we would never have the courage to travel the world, learn new things, apply for our dream job, start a business or even find the perfect person to complete our lives. If we do not possess a rock solid self-confidence, we might procrastinate on pursuing our dreams, sabotaging ourselves, or even not trying anything at all. Se...
      09-01-2013, 09:28 AM
    • How Playing Dungeons and Dragons Helps Build a Successful Man
      by Bradmin
      Playing Dungeons and Dragons has gotten a bad rap for many years, but I can assure you that not only is it a fun game, but it can also develop a man into a better leader. I personally know several men that were and still are RPG gamers that own successful businesses, run companies, are journalists and writers, or are at the top in their particular career field. Many were labeled geeks and nerds for their love of D and D, but they all grew up to be successful leaders. You may be wondering how battling dragons, moving armor-clad figures around a tabletop gaming board, and rolling 20-sided dice can help with leadership skills. Dungeons and Dragons is far more than any of that. So how does being a "gamer" develop a man into a leader and successful person?

      Role-play gaming brings out the creativity in a man. It forces him to use the deepest parts of his imagination because it is not a video game that is being watched on a screen....
      02-06-2013, 03:25 AM
    • Drawing The Line
      by Bradmin
      Sometimes you need to "draw the line" when it comes to some people and some issues that you might encounter in your life. "Drawing the line" is setting a boundary that will allow no one to proceed any further. "Drawing the line" is not something that should be done flippantly. It should only be done when you mean business and are not willing to back down under any circumstances. Historically, drawing the line meant defending against a foe at all costs, even to the point of losing one's life. These occurrences were often of a military nature, either being an actual event or sometimes a legendary one.

      One of the first recorded events where a "line was drawn" was in a poem that originated in India called Rāmāyaṇa. In the poem, Lakshmana, a deity that descended from heaven to earth, drew a line around a dwelling that housed the poem's heroine in order to protect her. ...
      02-03-2013, 03:58 AM
    • Timing
      by Bradmin
      "Timing is important in dancing and pipe or string music, for they are in rhythm only if timing is good. Timing and rhythm are also involved in the military arts, shooting bows and guns, and riding
      01-15-2013, 06:47 AM
    • Rightly Dividing Your Time
      by Bradmin
      I often have men tell me that they do not have time to do certain things in their life that they need or want to do. It may be reading a book, dating, doing home repairs, working out, going back to school, and many other things. The truth about it is that time has been perfectly divided for us so that we can do all the things we want and need to do.

      Saying that you do not have time to accomplish something can mean a variety of things. It can mean that you are over scheduled with more tasks than you can handle. It can mean that you are not following a strict enough schedule and let unimportant things such as watching television, mindlessly talking on the phone, or other things waste your time. ...
      01-15-2013, 01:48 AM
    • What Defines a Man?
      by Bradmin
      What defines a man? Below are some definitions of the word man in the Merriam Webster Dictionary.

      a (1) : an individual human; especially : an adult male human (2) : a man belonging to a particular category (as by birth, residence, membership, or occupation) —usually used in combination man> (3) : husband (4) : lover

      b : the human race : humankind

      c : a bipedal primate mammal (Homo sapiens) that is anatomically related to the great apes but distinguished especially by notable development of...
      01-08-2013, 02:10 PM